Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Spread the word to end the word...

Hi all!

If it seems like we've abandoned the blog, we haven't. We've been on an extended hiatus. In between work, the holidays, visits from relatives, a recent chili cookoff fundraiser for a dear friend -- oh, and raising two kids -- we've been kind of distracted.

Things are good, though, in this neck of the woods. Hope is loving school, making good progress with potty training (she went No. 2 TWICE today on the potty; woohoo!), and working on a Picture Exchange Communication system. She's still the busiest little thing around, playing with such vigor I swear if we could just harness her energy our electric bill would be a lot cheaper. She's still really into books, stacking cups, and any and every cupboard or drawer she can find. Joel and I joke that sometimes she treats play like its a 9-to-5 job. "Time to stack the cups..."

Oscar, meanwhile, is growing and developing at lightening speed. Where did 9 months go? He's creeping all over the place, exploring everything he can get his hands on, babbling up a storm. Today, he had a major meltdown because I dared to take him away from a little activity table he was playing at to change his diaper. He was crying so hard he nearly hyperventilated. Please don't tell me his sprouting red hair has a temper to match.

I decided to write tonight because I want to spread the word about a campaign the Special Olympics launched today to end use of the word "retard."

Oh, how this word sends shivers up my spine. I've heard it everywhere -- from friends, relatives, colleagues, teenagers who think they're being funny. They're not. I often think that friends, relatives, or colleagues don't even realize how insulting and hurtful they're being when they use the r-word, especially to Hope. But they are.

Let me be clear for those who may not know: Hope is considered "mentally retarded." The correct terminology is cognitively impaired or intellectual disabled. Does that mean Hope can't learn things? Absolutely not. But does it take her longer than other kids? Yes.

Why is the r-word so offensive? It's offensive because it degrades people like Hope. It's used to describe someone as stupid or dumb. But what people don't realize is who they're really insulting is people with intellectual disabilities like Hope when they casually throw out the r-word like it's no big deal.

The Special Olympics' campaign is called "Sread the word to end the word." Take the pledge -- do it here -- and pledge not to use the r-word anymore. Because the next time you do, you're making fun of Hope and everyone with intellectual disabilities like her.

And that's not OK.


Lisa said...

Wow! Great post guys. Glad to hear things are going so well for all of you. Agreed 100% about the "R" word. We've had to deal with the "M" word (midget) a great deal too. I think it's excellent that Special Olympics is taking a stand.

Jenna said...

My name is Jenna and I came across your site. Hope is an amazing special little girl, such a fighter and a hero. I love her smile. I get called retard a lot. I was born with a rare life threatening disease, and a long with it comes developemental delays. even though in some ways I am high functioning and some ways I am not. Like learning for example, Just like Hope it takes me longer to learn then others. That is awesome what special olympics is doing, because the r word shouldn't be used.
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Anonymous said...

Never in a million years did I realize that Hope was considered "menetally retarded". That just doesn't seem right to me. I hope that people will really pay attention to what they say. It's just not a funny expression, in any way.